“We will be together forever, I will never leave you,” says the man who wants to get you to commit to him on a level deeper than what a girlfriend and boyfriend relationship is supposed to be. Some things should be left to marriage. Don’t let him fool you, the only thing you owe him is a good conversation and emotional support. He’s not your husband and until he kneels down in front of you, ask for you to marry him and you both walk down that aisle it’s not your duty to play wife or “wifey,” period. There is no question, if, ands, or buts about it! I’ve heard all the lines in the book and trust me I’ve seen it all. I’ve made mistakes and bounced back like I always do, but one thing you don’t want to go through is giving your heart away time and time again for someone to break that promise that many men make, “I will never leave you.” Lets get this straight, leaving a person has a lot of meanings behind it. Leaving means breaking up with a person, staying in a relationship but refusing to hold up your end of the relationship, and cheating while in the relationship. Leaving a person doesn’t always necessarily mean a physical break up.
Do you really want to go through your entire life believing this…I mean because remember the time you had to start all over again with someone new because the last relationship didn’t work out? Protect yourself, if a man truly loves you he will respect the way you carry yourself and become even more attracted to you because of your way of thinking. True love is when you fall for a person’s mind anyway. Yes physical appearance matters, but what’s physical appearance without integrity and intelligence? Ladies, a man has to love you for your morals, classiness, and strength. If he has a problem with you dressing conservative and that’s the way you like to dress he isn’t for you.
Many men in this world are sexual people, but a man who cannot control himself and respect your wishes while still treating you like a Queen, is a man who doesn’t deserve a woman like you. You’re different, you have a desire to do and be different from the rest, I know because I’m like you. You want to live according to your morals. You don’t look down upon no one else and you have a love and respect for everyone because you recognize that everyone’s stories are different. However, sometimes you find yourself feeling alone in the world. You feel like no one understands you, especially the men in this world. Baby girl, hold your head up, God has created someone especially for you. Life is not a fairytale but know that you are not alone; there are other women in this world who can relate to your story.
Always remember that you’re a woman of substance, so if your “boyfriend” wants you to cater to him like you’re married, he has the wrong woman! Stand your ground and don’t let it continue to go on, break up immediately. You can’t change him, that’s who he is and your time is valuable.
I hope this blesses someone, until next time loves xoxoxo.
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