Love Yourself: A Note to Women
Loving yourself can sometimes be one of the hardest things to do in a world filled with pressure to look like what’s depicted on the television screen or in the magazines. Nowadays it seems like everyone on television has a coca-cola, bottle-shaped figure. Their makeup is done flawlessly every time they step outside their home and they are always living the life, the good life, or the dream life, according to their social media pages.
The first step to loving yourself is to not compare yourself to others. People only share the good moments in their life, and sometimes those moments are only fragmented segments of bad moments pieced together to appear as good just for the eyes of others. You never really know what someone is going through. Some of the nice bodies you see on social media came with a price that you may not be willing to pay, such as plastic surgery. A lot of women make the choice to change their bodies or faces through plastic surgery to be seen as more appealing or attractive. Men like it, and the world accepts them as being sexy, so they take the risk. I remember the days when plastic surgery was dreaded, and only people got it who really needed it. One example is a car accident victim receiving surgery to re-construct his/her face or lips. Now plastic surgery has become a trend. Women are going under the knife to become this idea of how a woman is supposed to look by changing their face, nose, lips and adding on to other parts of their body.
I have always viewed unnecessary plastic surgery as being a risky procedure that could have detrimental effects on a person’s health. So is it worth it? I don’t think it is. I don’t have the “idea” perfect body that many of us see in the magazines, or that many men would almost break his neck to turn around to see. I’m lean and petite, but I’m okay with that. I still feel very sexy and confident when I step out. There's no better feeling than embracing who you are. There are many people in the world who do not have all their limbs and there are also people who are blind or handicap, but regardless of their disabilities I have still seen many of them walk around happy, so why in the world would I be unappreciative of the type of body God has blessed me with? Sometimes you just have to really put things into perspective. This is the way God created me and regardless of how anyone else feels, I feel good about who I am. I enjoy exercising and I'm a healthy eater, so I am all for people changing their bodies the natural way.
When you look in the mirror before you go to sleep at night just before you wash your face, tell yourself that you are good enough. Don’t continue to be distracted by all the noise in the world, that tells you that you should be or look a certain way. Be your own person. Love yourself, and you will attract the same positive energy. When you have love and respect for yourself, your demeanor will automatically command others to treat you with that same respect. Do not allow anyone to tell or make you feel like you aren’t good enough. Life is no fairytale so you may come across a few who will say something jokingly about your body, or either call you out on what you do or do not have, but those are the ones who do not deserve to be in your life. Whoever says things to bring you down are not good enough for you. So keep walking and remember you are worth it, to have good friends, to be in a great relationship and to be around family members who support and uplift you.
I hope this post blesses someone and encourages someone to be less critical, and to love on themselves a little more…so until next time loves xoxoxo!
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.