Sometimes in life we make decisions based off how we feel at the moment, as a result we don’t consider how our decisions will affect our loved ones. The ones who love us are the ones who have been there through thick and thin. They are the ones who have always had our backs and genuinely cared for us. We know for a fact that our loved ones have our best interest. So why are we so quick to dismiss them when they express their concerns about our life?
It’s easy to make decisions based off our adrenaline rush, when life gets exciting and fun. Sometimes we live in the moment so much that we only think about that space and time, and when a friend or family member come to us and try to have a sincere talk, we become defensive and brush them off. It doesn’t register to us that the decisions we are making are hurting our friends or family members. We absolutely could care less because we are living the life we feel is best for us at the moment. We are on a high that only the moment can provide, but what we don’t realize is that the moment is only temporary.
Life is not a fairytale, so no matter how much fun we are having in a particular moment or season in our life, it isn’t worth the dismissal of the people who have always been there for us. We have to start listening and respecting the feelings and advice of the people who really care for us and genuinely have our backs. These are the ones who will be there when the firecrackers die out and the excitement leaves. Appreciate those people, and respect their concern for your life because like all seasons the one you are in now will surely pass. Nothing is constant but change, so be slow to talk, quick to listen and careful to consider the feelings and advice of the ones who were there when no one else was.
I was brought up in church believing in God. My mother made sure that I learned about him at an early age. I can’t imagine how my life would be without God. Every once in a while I come into contact with a person who has reservations about believing in God. The person is usually someone I know or someone I have met in a professional setting. I only learn of this information because the person decides to open up to me about their life, I never pry for information. I’m also not the type to force my beliefs on anyone; as a result, I never make people feel bad about the thoughts they share with me because the only way to have a positive influence on a person’s life is to show them love and not stand in judgment. Everyone does not have the same way of thinking, because we were brought up in different homes, and environments. We come from different places; however, we all have the same opportunity to develop a relationship with God.
I’m sure to always listen and give the best advice possible to people who are hurting and have been through traumatizing situations. I’m not a loud person, I’m a meek and humble individual, therefore I like for my personality and the way I treat others to give people reassurance and or confirmation that God is real. Having a real relationship with God gives you the power to impact people’s lives without telling them about your connection to God, because they will already see him in you. I strive everyday to be the best woman of God I can be so that people are able to get a glimpse of godliness when they come into contact with me. I’m not perfect but I strive to be as close to human perfection as possible. My desire is to be able to help others live their best life by spreading love and encouragement. My goal is that when a person meets me it makes them want to gravitate towards God, because of how kind and respectful I am to them. I believe this is how we should all be towards people who are seeking guidance and are in between or uncertain about spirituality.
I want people to know that they don’t have to stay stuck in their past mistakes, and continue beating themselves up about where they are in life. As long as God has given you breath you are able to turn things around. The past taught you what not to do. Allow your past mistakes to make you a better person today. A diamond ring is one of the most expensive rings you can buy, however before it developed into a diamond it had to persevere through extreme pressure. We also have to go through pressure to develop into the person God created us to be. If life didn’t give us some challenges, it wouldn’t be worth living because we wouldn’t know how it felt to experience and appreciate actually winning.
I’m able to live a happy and joyful life in spite of my past, mistakes, and misfortunes, because of my relationship with God. My hope is that when someone is in doubt about our Lord and Savior Jesus, they can come to me and or others like myself, to learn about the amazing experiences we have had with God to put their doubts to rest. I remember having a conversation with a guy who asked me, “So you talk to God and actually hear him tell you things?” I said yes, and then I explained how God can show you things when you’re reading your bible. I always ask for guidance, inspiration, and answers to some of the questions I have for God before studying my bible and every time afterwards, I flip to a scripture that guides me to the right decision I need to make.
Sometimes God will show me things through encounters with other people. There have been times when I have said hello to a complete stranger, and they responded by answering a question I had for God earlier that day. Anytime, I start feeling down because of life's difficulties, at that very moment and not a moment later, God will put someone in my presence who's having it harder than me. What makes this even more impactful is the person who God places in my presence is happy and smiling in spite of their situation, so I ask myself why can't I be happy? I've seen a blind person crossing a busy traffic street, and on a separate occasion I witnessed a person riding an electric chair up the street right after I finished complaining about my car problems. Every time God shows me these things I apologize right away and say I understand God, please forgive me. I understand that things could always be worse and I have to be appreciative for what I do have.
Life is not a fairytale, however there is a God in the heavens who cares about each and every one of us. I’ve seen him do numerous miracles. He’s healed a lot of my family members from sickness, cancer and other life-threatening diseases. He’s also helped me to miraculously recover from an injury, when the doctors didn’t know what else to do. He saved my mom's life when I almost lost her last year. He helped me to graduate with my Master's Degree when I was about to be kicked out of school for something I didn't do, the day before graduation. I’ve seen him turn around families, and people’s lives for the better. He’s taken people off the street living the fast life and made them mentors. He’s put people through college who were told all their life they would never amount to anything.
Recently I had to look for full time employment after I graduated from graduate school. My bills were adding up and my student loans started to kick in. I allowed myself to stress out to the point where it was starting to get the best of me, but then one day I said ok this isn’t going to change anything. That night I prayed that God would bless me with a job I would love so that I would be able to pay my bills for the next month. I decided to stand on faith and stop worrying and prayed faithfully day and night, which I still do now. Every day I applied for jobs and continued to be happy believing that God would come through! Some way and somehow he sent me a check in the mail from an old job that I thought I had already received. On a few occasions I was blessed by amazing family members with money because we always look out for eachother when the other is in need, and other times I used my credit card when I needed money. On the last day of the month before my bills were due, I was offered a position at a job I absolutely love! Not just a part time position which I applied for, but a Manager Position! God is REAL and he always proves himself faithful!! You just have to make the choice to believe in him and he will mend your heart from past mistakes. He will also be a healer in a hospital room and a provider when all your resources are depleted.
I hope this is a blessing to someone!
Love Trish xoxox
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.