I’m convinced that God wants for every single person to marry him before getting married to someone else. What does this mean? This means to carry yourself like you’re married before you actually get married. I know for some this sounds bizarre, but it is important to protect yourself from unnecessary situations in life. God doesn’t want you to be broken so many times by so many people before you meet the person he created you to spend your life with. This is why it’s important that you make a commitment to God and treat your relationship with him as if it’s a marriage. Allow him to order your steps, protect, provide and take care of you until he brings your soul mate into your life. You may say, “How would I know if the person is my soul mate?” There are a few ways you will know this but the number one way to identify your soul mate is when he or she puts God first in every aspect of his or her life. Your soul mate will put God before himself or herself, and even before you.
Have you ever been in a relationship that didn’t work out and you were disappointed because of it and then you later realized you were trying to make the man or woman be something he or she wasn’t? You wanted them to be the one so bad that you overlooked the biggest sign. The sign was that they did not honor God’s word on all levels, but they chose to only honor the part that was convenient for them. I think most of us have all made the mistake of jumping into a relationship with the wrong person, or trying to make something work that was only meant to be temporary. Making a decision to commit to God first will cause you to bypass mistakes and possible heartaches. Some mistakes can change the course of your entire life, while heartache doesn’t last forever. Be open to the idea of the wrong one walking out of your life and embrace it. It’s not a bad thing. When you find a sense of peace from this, it allows God a chance to prepare you for the right one.
Who are you committed to? Make sure you are committed to God first, so that you can identify your soul mate when you see him or her. In order for you to do this, you must first live a lifestyle that honors God. I’ve witnessed so many of my friends and family members in toxic relationships in my life, and I’ve also been in a few myself. If I could talk to my younger self I would tell myself that you can’t change a person, so the best thing to do is to let them go. A person who chooses to honor God and put him first is the one you want to spend your life with, because he or she will not base decisions off of convenience but will make the right decisions in a relationship even when making the right decisions may not be easy to do. Life is not a fairytale, however God will prepare you for your soul mate if you allow him to do his job by trusting him enough to commit to him and his process instead of creating a process of your own. I hope this is a blessing to someone!
Happy New Years Eve!
Rrrrringggg…my phone went off. I looked at it and was excited to pick it up because it was my god-father calling. I answered my phone with enthusiasm in my voice, like I always do, “Heyyyyyy,’” I said. “Hey,” said my god-father. My godfather has always been in my life, along with his wife, my god-mother. These two treat me like I am their biological daughter; it’s been this way since day one. My mom couldn’t have chosen better people to be apart of my life.
“What you doing?” said my God-father. “Nothing,” I said. We’ll be by there in a minute to drop off your Christmas gift,” he said. I knew that I would get a nice gift from them because they are very up to date on the latest trends and technology. I heard a knock on the door and I went to open it. It was my god-parents. If I could pick one word to describe them it would be resiliency. I’ve seen them both stand the test of times, and each time they were faced with life’s adversities they came out on top still standing. They may not know but they have taught me lessons just by the way they live their lives.
I greeted my god-parents and welcomed them to my kitchen where we sat at my high-kitchen table that I love so very much. I glanced at the bag they put on the table. It was a bag from Kay Jewelers! What? I started thinking to myself, I know they didn’t go all out like this, but it was my god-parents who are known to go all out for me and my god-sister. “Open your gift,” they said. I picked up the Kay’s bag and after what seemed like an eternity I took out the small box. I felt myself blushing, “Oh my goodness,” I said. I could have cried when I opened the box to see a diamond ring! When I looked up my god-parents said, “Will you marry us?”
This was the sweetest thing ever. I stood up to hug them both. “We got your god-sister one too and we couldn’t do one thing for one without doing the same for the other,” said my god-father. It’s as if my god-parents knew when to step in and do something this amazing for me! They have seen what I’ve been through these last two years of my life and throughout my entire journey I’ve been able to talk to them about anything. I’m so grateful that when people leave out your life God reveals to you that there are other people who genuinely care for you and love you unconditionally.
Everything I went through was necessary and was supposed to happen the way that it did to lead up to this very moment. This was a reminder that God hasn’t forgot about me. Life is not a fairytale, however God will orchestrate the steps of others to remind you of his unconditional and unwavering love. I hope this holiday season you acknowledge that there are people who care for you, no matter what your situation looks like.
Love Trish xoxoxo
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.