Many people in this world feel like they need someone to complete them. I’ve experienced a lot and seen a lot for a 27 year old, as a result I’m very mature for my age. Some things I wish I could wipe away from my memory and other things I’m glad I experienced because now I have a better idea of what I want for my life. For starters, being at peace with myself comes first. When you are happy and at peace with yourself you will never accept anything less than what you deserve. You may ask the
question, "How do I become at peace with myself?” Peace begins with everyday prayer and meditation. Spend time talking to God and also spend time focusing on the things you love to do. Get to know who you are and where God is trying to take you in your life.
A lot of relationships fail because some men and women are afraid to be by themselves; as a result they get into a relationship without really thinking it through. Guys have said to me, “You’re 27 years old, so your biological clock is about to start ticking.” I understand this but I will not lower my standards and jump in a relationship just with anyone to have a baby by a certain age. A popular belief is that many women rush to find a man so they can hurry to have a baby before they reach the age of when a pregnancy becomes a high risk factor.
My response to the biological clock comment is I will adopt if I’m not married by the time I would like to have a baby. There are children in this world who really need someone to care for them. I take marriage and having a child serious. I want my marriage to be successful and I want an amazing father for my children, therefore I’m willing to wait on the person God places in my life. Being impatient and rushing into a relationship because of how you feel will never give you a favorable outcome. You have to wait, get to know a person, pray about it, and ask God for direction. If the other person isn’t praying and asking God for the same, more than likely that is not the person for you.
When it’s the one for you, you will be connected and have the same connection to God. This person will be your soul mate, or the person who God orchestrated for you to spend your life with. Take your time and allow God to choose for you. Life is not a fairytale, therefore all marriages aren’t put together by God due to men and women rushing into things that weren’t meant to be. When you don’t seek God’s guidance and approval things don’t always work out the way you want it to. It may work out temporarily and then begin to fall apart. Take time to find peace within yourself and be happy with who you are so you don’t have to seek validation from someone else. God made us already complete, finding our soulmate is only the icing on the cake. I hope this is a blessing to someone!
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.