It’s a cold world out here; many people are so caught up in trying to make it for themselves that they don’t take time to help others along the way.
Beware of getting career amnesia. It’s when you arrive at the next level in your career and you forget about everyone who’s ever helped you get to that level. It’s a cold world out here; many people are so caught up in trying to make it for themselves that they don’t take time to help others along the way. This can be for a few reasons, either they are afraid of someone getting ahead of them or they simply do not care about the success of other people. I remember when I was interning at an Old School, R&B radio station and this one guy took the time to train me on how to do audio production. He told me that the only thing I owed him for helping me to learn this skillful talent was to teach it to someone else. I promised him I would, and I have always taken that concept with me.
There were occasions when I reached out to people who I used to work with in the media field and received very little response or feedback. I did not take it personal because I am already familiar with how some people are in the industry. People will tell you they will get back in contact with you about an opportunity, and when you reach out to them they will always have an excuse. I am very open about helping others; it’s never made me feel like it would dampen my success. I enjoy providing others with information that will help them to advance in their career, and I realize this sets me up for even bigger blessings instead of take away from the blessings I already have. Life is not a fairytale, however, there are other people in the world like me who have a heart to help others while traveling along their success journey.
I’m really big on helping and encouraging other women because I don’t see enough of that in this world. Women are so quick to judge and to become jealous of one another. Ladies we have enough working against us; lets uplift and help eachother. We are some of the most resilient individuals there are. We have the children, go to work, come home and cook and clean, play with our children, stay up late if we need to, and wake up early the next morning to do it all over again. In my eyes we are super heros! So when you see another woman who’s on top of her game, don’t be afraid to help her or give her advice that will take her career to the next level.
Fellas the same goes for you. There are many men who carry a huge load as providers and some are even single and taking care of their children by themselves. When you see another man, being a “Man” you have to respect it. It’s not easy; men face their challenges and oppositions in the world that place many labels on them before taking time to get to know them or their story. Be open to helping other men that you see.
We can all win together. It doesn’t have to be a competition. There’s enough money in the world to go around. Lets be less hesitant to turn our heads on others who may be looking for a helping hand. Everyone who reaches out to you is not looking for a handout, there are some who are just looking to know if there is a job opening or looking to find the right person to talk to. If you think about it, you wouldn’t be where you are if someone didn’t give you the information you needed to get your foot in the door. Also remember that we have to uplift eachother, we might come from different places but we can all relate on the same levels.
I hope this blesses someone, until next time loves xoxoxo!
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.