Have you ever made a decision that you said you would never make again? A decision that didn’t end in good results the last time you made it? Did that decision involve a significant other? The first thing you have to ask yourself is where did you go wrong and what influenced you to make that same decision over again. Did your significant other only think about their own feelings or did they take time to consider yours during the relationship? Next you have to forgive yourself for the not so good decision you made. This is when things can become a little difficult.
Growing up one of my family members would always say the first mistake was an absolute mistake however when it turns into three and four mistakes then it’s shame on the person making the mistake. I agree with this one hundred percent. We live in a world where we have to protect ourselves, our feelings, our hearts and even our minds, because life is not a fairytale. The same way we have to guard our mind from negativity, is the same way we have to guide our heart from opening up on a level without no substantial commitment. Going off a person’s word is not good enough. A person can tell you all day that they want to spend the rest of their life with you and you both can really love eachother, but is that enough to jump head over heels without rationalizing your decisions but following your heart instead? This is what you absolutely shouldn’t do. Spending the rest of your life with a person is also much bigger than you loving that person. How does that person treat you? Is he or she nice to you? Does your partner talk to you with respect or does he or she raise their voice and get out of line with you? These are questions to think about before even considering marriage.
When you’ve put everything into a relationship and you’re left with nothing, it’s only right to evaluate yourself. You can be upset with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend but the root to the problem lies within you. A person can only do what you allow them to do to you. So set your standards even higher, don’t settle to make someone else happy, because there is still no guarantee that your catering to them will be the glue to keep you both together. Love yourself enough to learn from your mistakes. You owe it to yourself to accept the type of love that's pure and unwavering, and does not tear you down but build you up. When the time is right God will bring someone into your life who will not look for you to compromise on your beliefs and values and will respect you for the beautiful person you are on the inside as well as the outside!
When God brings you through it, it’s done, move forward. Your windshield is bigger than your rear view mirror for a reason. It’s the window you look through while moving forward towards the better things God has for your life. The rear view mirror is there for you to only look back to make sure you don’t run into the same type of problem again. It helps you to safely pass by things you’ve already experienced and grown from.
I hope this blesses someone, until next time loves xoxoxo!
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.