Have you ever loved someone so much that you couldn’t see your life without him or her? I’m talking about unconditional love; love that overlooked flaws and apologized to keep peace even when it wasn’t your fault. You knew deep down the love you had for the person was unhealthy, because you overlooked your own feelings to cater to them. Why did you love this person so deeply? Maybe it was because of the things they said to you, or maybe it was the way they treated you during a particular time of the relationship. This time I’m referring to is usually the beginning, when the sparks are flying high and the person is willing to do anything they can to get and keep you. Now things were different.
Although you were being treated differently, your heart remained the same. You had already chosen the decision to love, which is a decision that doesn’t come with an on or off switch. You talked to your significant other in the most respectful way and wanted so deeply for them to understand how you felt. How did things go left? Was it your fault? After a while, you started analyzing yourself even though you knew deep down that you were the same person you were since the beginning of the relationship. Nothing had changed on your end, except your love that had grown deeper for your significant other.
Things became a constant battle and when you tried to talk it only got worse. Discussions ended in your significant other yelling and making you feel bad for expressing your views. Where did it all go wrong? It went wrong when you started caring more about the other person than yourself. It went wrong when you put the other person before you. It went wrong when you sacrificed your beliefs for the other person. It went wrong when you forgot your value. Life is not a fairytale so there will be times when you will be misunderstood and judged for the way you choose to live your life. Set your expectations at the beginning and if a person decides they no longer want to agree with them, move on. Don’t sacrifice your worth for another person’s ego. I hope this is a blessing to someone.
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.