Are you happy because you choose to be happy, or are you happy because everything you want in life is going the exact way you want it to go? I had to learn that happiness is a choice, as cliché as this sounds. You are in charge of your own happiness, and if there are people in your life who do things to tear down your happiness you have the power to eliminate them. Protect your personal space and your place of peace that dwells from within.
If your friends or family members always have negative things to say, especially when you are going through times of frustration or disappointment, you have to love them from a distance. People who truly care about you will not say things to make you feel bad during those moments when you need someone to speak positive things into your life. The ones who want to see you win will love you, encourage you, and be there to uplift your spirits.
Negativity is toxic, and sometimes it spreads into how we view ourselves. When you look in the mirror do you see yourself as royalty, or do you allow the obstacles of today to blur your vision? Some of us are guilty of speaking negative things into our own lives when we become discouraged about situations. In times like this we have to remind ourselves that the only thing that’s constant is change; therefore this too shall pass. Times will get better, so we can’t live unhappy and defeated over something that’s temporary. We have to be so busy preparing ourselves for when things get better, that we forget about how bad they may be at the moment. I view it as preparations while also living and enjoying life. What really defines happiness anyway?
My definition is being able to smile and appreciate the small gifts of life even when problems arise and things become challenging. Although life is not a fairytale, there is always something to be happy about. The hardships we face do not have to affect our entire attitude. Worrying and or being down on ourselves will not eliminate the problem. When we understand this and start to speak good things into our life, the weight becomes a little lighter and then we are able to accomplish more because of it.
If you had a bad day, this doesn’t mean you have to allow it to make you unhappy. God didn’t have to wake you up this morning; so everyday is an opportunity to get that much closer to where you want to be in life. I hope this is a blessing to someone.
Love Trish xoxoxo
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.