When the love is real you will know it. You will not know it right away but through time you will know. Rome wasn’t built over night, therefore you will not know if something is real over night. Trust me, I’ve experienced so much in my life and I’m grateful and blessed for the people who are in my life now.
I’ve never been the type to have many friends, but the friends I do have are genuine ones. I look at my friends as family members. We are connected forever, in other words there’s no disagreement or conflicting opinion that can keep us from being friends. We realize that we will not have everything in common and agree on everything all the time. When a person loves you, nothing or no one should be able to come in between that, this goes for friendships and personal relationships.
What I like about my friends is that the respect level never leaves, even in the midst of differing opinions. In a relationship it should be the same way, this is why I’m a firm believer that you should marry someone who you took time out to become friends with first. It will make life so much easier. Relationships are about respect and valuing the other person’s feelings. That’s what it all boils down to. I used to be the type of person who would cut people off quick, but the friends I have now taught me the true definition of friendship. Friendship is forgiving, loving past differences, and laughing away pain.
The people that are closest to my heart could never let me go and I could never let them go. I was upset with one of my friends’ years ago. We had a disagreement, and someone else was involved in the discussion, which elevated things so I was like whatever I’m done with the friendship. That friend called me and genuinely apologized. I know that it wasn’t intentional so we moved forward. There was a separate occasion when I had to apologize to that particular friend and the apology was accepted. I learned that it’s ok to make mistakes, because none of us are perfect; we don’t always get things right the first time. What matters the most is that we make an effort to apologize.
I’m grateful that I didn’t get stuck into the habit of walking away from meaningful relationships. Walking away from disrespect is one thing, but walking away from a misunderstanding is something to think twice about. Life is not a fairytale, so you may not always share the same views as the people God has placed in your life. However, it’s important to know that the people who have been in your life for years are there for a reason; I believe it’s God’s way of showing you who really loves you. When the love is real it will not let you walk away and you will not let it walk away.
I hope this is a blessing to someone.
Love Trish xoxoxo
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.