There are some people in this world that you know you just can’t help. You may love them from the bottom of your heart but you can’t help them. How do you know this? You know this because you have tried one to many times before to help this particular type of person. You’ve offered money, a place to stay, advice, or maybe even your time and resources. In the end the same person you helped, turned against you. They only pretended to appreciate you when they were getting what they needed from you. This type of person may not intentionally hurt you, most of the time they have a serious problem. They hurt the ones who are closest to them and help or really love and support the ones who can care less about them. I used to take things so personal, when I found myself in these situations because a lot of times it occurred with family. Now I have grown more as a person and I see life out of a different lens.
I will give the shirt off my back to my family and close friends. If I’m not able to give money, I’m always sure to share my knowledge, skills and time with the people I love. It’s important to remember that money isn’t the only thing you can give to a person. Growing up my mom used to always say, “If you feed a person, you feed them for one day. If you teach a person how to fish, you feed them for a lifetime.” I will never forget this saying because it is so true. You can give a person money and they will take until your well runs dry, and may even still be ungrateful. However, when they tell you they need some money the next time, take out your computer and help them to tighten up their resume, take them to the job link or maybe even share some ideas with them on a business they can start based off their skills and abilities. If this is not good enough, it goes back to what I previously said, some people you just can’t help.
I have been in various situations where I felt like I couldn’t help someone that was very close to me, even after I had given all I could give. This was a hurtful feeling, but I had to remember there is one thing that I can do to help that will always work and that’s prayer. I decided that I would no longer allow for situations like these to stress me out and make me feel helpless. There will be people in your life who you can help, however life is not a fairytale so there will be times that you will come across some who you cannot help. When you are not able to help in the physical, be reminded that you can help in the spiritual. Praying allows you to break barriers and will open doors for that person’s life, you will also be blessed in return for interceding on that person’s behalf.
I hope this blesses someone, until next time loves xoxoxo!
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.