Whewww chile! Let’s talk about my natural crown! First of all, it took me a while to get comfortable with wearing my natural hair. I used to get my hair blown out all the time after I made the decision to become natural, but nowadays I’ve been wearing my hair in its natural state. Being natural is when you have absolutely no chemicals in your hair. I stopped getting a relaxer in 2011.
I remember when my mom decided to go natural first. She has a more manageable grade of hair than I do. I felt it looked great on her. She joked with me and told me I would never go natural because I was prissy and that every strand of my hair always had to be in the correct place. I shook my head and was like “I’m not prissy.” Deep down I knew she was right. I cared about my hair being in place all the time.
Little did I know that I would be required to take a swim class before I graduated from East Carolina University. Yessss, I said it! Swim class! So you already know that relaxed hair doesn't go well with chlorine. Chlorine pretty much strips all the chemicals out of your hair. There was no point for me to continue putting a relaxer in my hair while I was taking swim class, so I ended up getting braids for the entire semester.
After swim class ended I decided not to go back to getting a relaxer right away. Since I survived an entire semester without a relaxer I wanted to test out going natural with my hair. When I made this decision, I never looked back. Life is not a fairytale, so at the beginning it was challenging. I wasted so much money buying expensive natural hair products that didn't work for my hair. However, like anything else in life if you stick with something long enough God will begin to show you exactly what you need to know.
I'm so happy I stood the test of time with learning what works for my natural hair. My hair grows even faster and is so much healthier without chemicals. I don't have to worry about my scalp burning from a relaxer or any type of irritations from the harsh chemicals. I remember one time I was at a salon and the stylist left a relaxer in my hair for too long. It was horrible. My scalp burned so bad and even after it was washed several times it continued burning. My scalp did not stop burning until after my hair was blow dried and flat ironed and even then I still felt a tingling sensation. It was the scariest feeling. The stylist thought I was being dramatic because I was young (in high school), but I knew what I was feeling.
That experience alone showed me how powerful a relaxer is and it left an area in my scalp from where it burned me. I'm not trying to turn anyone away from relaxers but just be careful if you're using them. After that situation happened I started putting them in my own hair, so that I could take it out right away. Although this was the temporary fix for me during the time, the permanent fix for me happened when I chose to leave relaxers alone completely.
What I noticed since being natural is getting a hair blowout straightens my hair better than any relaxer can; therefore there is no real need for me to go back to a relaxer.
Oh yea, and God helped me to come across the following products below that work amazingly well on my type 4 hair🙏🏾:
Softee African Shea Butter
African Pride Super Gro
Here's a helpful link to learn more about what hair type you have: https://curls.biz/hair-type-guide/
I hope this post blesses your life!
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.