 What’s in the way of your dreams? Is it time, money, or health conditions? I’ve been struggling for a while to find a balance in my life to work towards accomplishing my next dream. I’ve been a dreamer since childhood but sometimes continuing to work on my dreams can be challenging, and then it hit me. Steve Harvey said on his radio show that your discipline determines your destiny, not your desire. After hearing this, I figured that I need to find a way to accomplish the next dream that I have been desiring for too long. I’ve been working on it, but I often start and then stop due to life happenings and let's be honest, mainly the lack of energy.
Sometimes after working hard every day, my energy feels like it is zapped from me. Finding that quiet, therapeutic time for yourself is key. I took a break with blogging for a while, but then realized I needed to go back to the very thing that saved me. It helped keep me grounded years ago when I was going through recovery from an injury. Fast-forward to today and it is playing that same role in my life once again. I’m grateful to have this outlet. Not only is it providing the therapy I need to set the tone for a conducive environment and mindset for me to work towards my next dream, but hopefully I am helping others in the process. Don’t give up on your dreams; you have to fight for them. This world will throw every distraction at you that it has, but you have to fight. Drag yourself up off the couch when you get home. With every ounce of breath or piece of energy you can muster up, work towards your dream. Strive to complete one thing towards your dream each day, no matter how large or small. Your life is worth it. It is worth being able to look back and see that you did everything you wanted to do in life. You explored this world and your limits, you worked hard but had fun while doing it. Please keep going (I’m saying this to you as I also say it to myself). I hope this blesses you! Trish
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Those are the people who want an adversary. Every day I seek and pray to the most high. So that my soul can be at rest when I die. In life I've learned that people will say things to hurt you. When all they really want is a debut. Insecurity comes from this. Confidence resides in bliss. Overlook them and know there will be things you have to endure. However these are the things that God uses to make you mature. Get back to your father's business. Nothing else really matters; I am a witness. All these extra things are just a distraction. God's plan for your life is the main attraction. Trish What do you do when you don't know what to do? You've prayed, you've stayed the course but yet you're feeling stuck. What do you do when you don't know what to do? You're worried about bills and feel like you have no luck. What do you do when you don't know what to do? You're not feeling valued, and you know what you bring to the table. What do you do when you don't know what to do? When you're stuck in between a dream and reality, and this world seems to always make you a label. What do you do when you don't know what to do? The only thing that's left to do, is pray and fast and make "you" a priority. What do you do when you don't know what to do? It's never been easy not being a majority. Trish  This generation needs to be saved. Social media sends messages that you can make it off of looks and popularity. This generation needs to be saved. Tik Tok videos promote violent challenges that many people actually follow through with in order to get likes and attention. This generation needs to be saved. Validation now comes from whoever is on the other side of the computer screen and it doesn’t matter if they know you or not. This generation needs to be saved. Depression has increased because so many are comparing themselves with others who share their highlights on social media. This generation needs to be saved. Lets get back to when the only people whose opinions mattered were the ones who were closest to you. This generation needs to be saved. Trish   The following signs are just a few that may mean it is time to have a heart to heart talk with your woman:
She begins to distance herself. She stops returning calls. She comes home real late and can’t explain where she’s been. She doesn’t seem interested in conversations anymore. She gets upset about small things and there are consistent arguments. Why does a woman choose to degrade her man? She doesn’t care about him and she is more than likely using him or she may be trying to make him feel bad about himself so he doesn’t go and find someone else. Why would your woman care more about making others’ happy before making you happy? She no longer cares about the relationship. How do you leave an unhealthy relationship? When you realize the person you fell in love with does not exist, this will give you the strength to leave. Many times, a person will portray themselves to be one way but they are only acting in order to get a chance with you.  The following signs are just a few that may mean it is time to have a heart to heart talk with your man.
His ways change. The things he used to do for you ceases: If he stops paying for your food after he always insists on paying, especially when you know that he can afford to pay for dinner. If he starts telling you that you cannot go with him somewhere and you went everywhere with him before. If you and him are invited to an event and you end up going alone. Why does a man choose to degrade his woman? He wants to be the star and doesn’t want his woman to outshine him. Why would your man care more about making others’ happy before making you happy? Once his feelings change for you, he is no longer concerned with if you’re happy or not. How do you leave an unhealthy relationship? Start working on loving yourself more than you love anyone else. Prayer will bring you through. Pray and ask for strength for God to bring you out of the relationship. Sometimes love is blind and you feel like you need the person and can’t see yourself without them, but once you can wean yourself out of this mindset then you can start seeing the person in the same light that they see you in. Whewww chile! Let’s talk about my natural crown! First of all, it took me a while to get comfortable with wearing my natural hair. I used to get my hair blown out all the time after I made the decision to become natural, but nowadays I’ve been wearing my hair in its natural state. Being natural is when you have absolutely no chemicals in your hair. I stopped getting a relaxer in 2011. I remember when my mom decided to go natural first. She has a more manageable grade of hair than I do. I felt it looked great on her. She joked with me and told me I would never go natural because I was prissy and that every strand of my hair always had to be in the correct place. I shook my head and was like “I’m not prissy.” Deep down I knew she was right. I cared about my hair being in place all the time. Little did I know that I would be required to take a swim class before I graduated from East Carolina University. Yessss, I said it! Swim class! So you already know that relaxed hair doesn't go well with chlorine. Chlorine pretty much strips all the chemicals out of your hair. There was no point for me to continue putting a relaxer in my hair while I was taking swim class, so I ended up getting braids for the entire semester. After swim class ended I decided not to go back to getting a relaxer right away. Since I survived an entire semester without a relaxer I wanted to test out going natural with my hair. When I made this decision, I never looked back. Life is not a fairytale, so at the beginning it was challenging. I wasted so much money buying expensive natural hair products that didn't work for my hair. However, like anything else in life if you stick with something long enough God will begin to show you exactly what you need to know. I'm so happy I stood the test of time with learning what works for my natural hair. My hair grows even faster and is so much healthier without chemicals. I don't have to worry about my scalp burning from a relaxer or any type of irritations from the harsh chemicals. I remember one time I was at a salon and the stylist left a relaxer in my hair for too long. It was horrible. My scalp burned so bad and even after it was washed several times it continued burning. My scalp did not stop burning until after my hair was blow dried and flat ironed and even then I still felt a tingling sensation. It was the scariest feeling. The stylist thought I was being dramatic because I was young (in high school), but I knew what I was feeling. That experience alone showed me how powerful a relaxer is and it left an area in my scalp from where it burned me. I'm not trying to turn anyone away from relaxers but just be careful if you're using them. After that situation happened I started putting them in my own hair, so that I could take it out right away. Although this was the temporary fix for me during the time, the permanent fix for me happened when I chose to leave relaxers alone completely. What I noticed since being natural is getting a hair blowout straightens my hair better than any relaxer can; therefore there is no real need for me to go back to a relaxer. Oh yea, and God helped me to come across the following products below that work amazingly well on my type 4 hair🙏🏾: Curls Mixed Chicks Miss Jessie's Softee African Shea Butter African Pride Super Gro Here's a helpful link to learn more about what hair type you have: https://curls.biz/hair-type-guide/ I hope this post blesses your life! I'm a High School English Teacher and I am proud to be a teacher! To my fellow teachers, hopefully this week your students and administrators showed you love and appreciation! Lets keep changing this world, one life at a time! Sincerely, Ms. Mack #TeamBulldogNation  There is this idea that once you accomplish your goals, you will be validated. Lately I have been doing some soul searching because I am always reflecting on how I can grow as a person, spiritually and professionally. I came across a youtube video that talked about the wait period. The wait period is when you are actively waiting for God to manifest something in your life. I say actively waiting because during this time you are still required to consistently put in the work for the thing you are waiting for. In the youtube video, Essence Atkins and Sarah Jakes Roberts talks to the hostess Stephanie Ike, about the importance of not being anxious in the wait period. Roberts said that when you’re waiting on something you feel will bring you more worth and value, and don’t receive it, you feel as though that particular thing takes away from your worth and value. She went on to further discuss that when you realize your worth and value isn’t measured by what works and what doesn’t work, but it’s based on who you are and the fact that you have air in your lungs, then you will not be anxious for anything. Listening to these ladies talk shifted something in my spirit. Many times we connect accomplishment with value, not realizing that we are already valuable because we are alive and breathing. God has already placed the value in us that we are seeking to find. We are blessed to have goals and dreams, however God gave us worth and value well before he revealed to us our goals and dreams. When he formed us in our mother's womb, we were of value and worth. Life is not a fairytale, however God has a way of showing us how important and valuable we are when the weight of the world and accomplishment tries to attach itself to our value. Our value is priceless and cannot be obtained through human achievement. I hope this blog post blesses you! Much Love, Trish Dear Queen, Dear survivor, do you know that I love you oh so very much? Do you know that you are beautiful? Do you know that you are intelligent? Do you know that you are not your past mistakes? Do you know that you are more valuable than precious jewels and rubies? Life will sometimes be extremely difficult. There will be times when you will see others go through things that you believe are unfair. There will be times when you will get dealt an unfair hand. Everyone will not love you, although you are one of the most loving people anyone can meet. You do not judge anyone or their circumstances and you treat everyone with respect and of value. Your world has been turned upside down before. People closest to you have broken your heart and what did you choose to do? You chose to forgive those people. Why? You know that those people are in need of the love that only God can provide. You know that those people are lost in a sinful word and that all they know how to do is hurt others, because they have not stepped into the fullness of living for God and God only. You used to allow those people to hurt you, but then the love of God always reminded you that his love is sufficient and overshadows all negativity. Signed, My Love Letter to Life John 14:27 - Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.  |
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