When was the last time you were hurt? Go back to that moment, how did it make you feel? When you give everything you have to give to a person, whether that’s in a personal, friendship or family relationship, feeling betrayed or mistreated has the same feeling. It hurts! I’ve experienced the feeling of betrayal with different people in my life. How did I deal with it? I said goodbye. Goodbye to broken promises. Goodbye to mistreatment and goodbye to being taken for granted.
“I will not do it again” is a line I’ve heard too often in my personal relationships. I had forgiven and forgiven until there was nothing left inside of me. The feelings diminished, and then I was only in the relationship because of the amount of time I put in it. I wanted to believe that magically the guy would change and he would realize what he had and finally value me. “Who was I fooling? No one but myself.” I knew that things wouldn’t change and they didn’t so I finally had to let completely go of it (the relationship) and of him. Goodbye to broken promises.
Lets talk about friendships. Just because you are someone’s friend, it doesn’t automatically mean they’re your friend. Examine their actions. Are they around when you need someone to talk to? Do they call you and focus only on talking about themselves without asking you about your life? Do they make an effort to show up during special moments in your life, such as birthday parties? If you’re the only one making an effort to listen and be present in their life then this is a friend you need to walk away from because the love and respect is not reciprocated.
Some of the same things that destroy friendships can have an impact on family as well. I’ve also seen jealousy get in the way of beautiful family relationships. In life we each have our own individual journeys. We each are on a different course, so there’s no reason to compare yourself or to be jealous of anyone. We look and act differently for a reason, because we all have a different purpose. I view my friends as family so if we’re friends then you have a sister for life.
Examine the people who you call your support. Does your significant other mistreat you and make you feel like you’re not worthy of better? Are your friendships one-sided and only a convenience to the other person? Is a family member allowing jealousy to come in between the both of you? If you are in either of these situations, you have to find closure and step away from the toxic relationships because it will continue to be the way it is. Life is not a fairytale; you will experience relationships that will threaten your peace but only you have the keys to who you allow inside of your world.
Love is patient, love is kind.
I hope this blesses someone.
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.