I've experienced a lot in my lifetime, but there is this one universal question that we all seem to struggle with. That question is, "What is love?" You don't really know what love is or how it feels until you have actually experienced it for yourself. When thinking of love, you can consider the love you may have received from your parents or guardians because they were supposed to have introduced you to what love is before anyone else. Some people have had to figure out what love is through a significant other, which isn't always bad but could be tricky if they hadn't experienced love from a guardian first. Love from a guardian is love in its truest and most purest form.
Love is not just about feelings; it's an action word. Love gives freely, love is patience, love is understanding, love is kind, love is respect, and most importantly love is unconditional. Although love is unconditional it's important for you to know that it doesn’t mean that you should stay in a relationship that you are getting mistreated in, this includes personal and friendship relationships as well. You can still love a person while deciding to distance yourself.
If you have never received true, genuine, authentic love from a guardian it’s critical for you to seek self-love before getting into a personal relationship. When you are not familiar with how love feels you may settle for less than your worth, or you may hurt someone else in the process of seeking the love you never received. Take out quality time to love and get to know yourself more, before getting involved with someone in a personal relationship; this will give you insight on how to love someone and how someone should love you.
When you love yourself, you will not stay in a verbally or physically abusive relationship. If you are getting out of a traumatic relationship it's never too late to take time out for yourself. Allow yourself time to heal because you are so worthy of being loved the right way. Life is not a fairytale, love is a concept that so many of us struggle to make and find meaning to, however if you question if it's love ask yourself does this person bring out the best in me and do I feel uplifted and celebrated when they're around.
I hope this blesses someone…until next time loves!
I'm an East Carolina University alumna. I have experience in journalism, law, radio broadcasting, television production and teaching. My goal is to make a difference in the world through media and motivational speaking.